In addition to the emotional tail-spin that sexual relationships cause, there are other complications that need to be discussed.
Then if you get pregnant, you have to decide how you feel about abortions. Abortions are when a physician goes inside of a woman’s uterus early in a pregnancy with an instrument called a curette (which kinda looks like a spoon) attached to a suction, and sorta scrape and suck out the pregnancy contents.
This procedure, like any procedure, can have complications. The physician may scrape too hard, and damage the uterus, so future pregnancies are not possible. The physician may accidentally poke through the uterine wall, and cause bleeding, and damage the uterus. This accident may even lead to the loss of the uterus, bleeding, and death.
Abortions can result in infection, excessive bleeding, and are expensive. Also, finding a reputable place that’s safe and legitimate is important, and that takes research and effort (but is VERY important to do if considering an abortion). All of this has to be done in a short time, because abortions are safer when done early in the pregnancy.
Finally, getting an abortion is not easy emotionally. Afterall, there’s a *future baby* in there. Arguably it’s “better” for the future baby to not be born to the ‘wrong’ person at the ‘wrong’ time. But, making the decision to end a pregnancy is not easy, even when a woman is sure about her decision.
You’ll always wonder who that baby would have turned out to be. At the time they were supposed to be born, you may remember that date/month for years. Sometime in the future you may even come across a child who “would have been the same age as yours” and you may wonder if perhaps that little Soul went into that child’s body since you ended your pregnancy.
My point is, an abortion is not something that you do for birth control. It is not something that is without consequences, and potential complications.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
And STDs. Cervical warts can be precursors to cervical cancer (meaning that if you get warts, your chances of getting cancer are higher). So you’ll need to get exams more frequently. If you get herpes, it’s for life. Herpes causes painful bumps and ulcers that come and go. And if they happen to show up at the end of your pregnancy in the future, you may have to get a c-section to avoid exposing the baby to your herpes. Then there’s gonorrhea that can disseminate (spread) to other parts of your body after the vagina is infected and cause disease in other places in your body. Chlamydia is a STD that can cause an infection in your tubes, and you may not even know you have it. As the bacteria grow, it causes a bad infection. As your body heals, it forms a scar in your fallopian tubes which may cause you to have ectopic pregnancies (pregnancy in your tubes) or not be able to get pregnant at all (since the tubes can become blocked).
Syphilis is a disease that may be somewhat silent, and you may not know you have it until it has spread to distant parts of your body. Hepatitis is inflammation of the liver, and can make you very, very sick (and even die from it) if you get it – and it is spread by sex (and IV drugs). And there are many other vaginal irritations that can be a result of having sex as well; such as trichomoniasis and bacterial vaginosis. Women are more susceptible to urinary tract infections if they have sex frequently as well. Although most of these illnesses are treatable, you have to know the signs and symptoms so you go and get treatment appropriately.
(BTW, bacterial vaginosis and yeast infections, and UTIs can very well happen in the absence of sexual activity, so women can get these infections even if they don’t have sex).
Virginity is indeed special. There’s a certain “simplicity” to relationships (and therefore life in general, since life is essentially made up of relationships). Life can get complicated as you get older. A gift of youth is simplicity. Virginity is simplicity. Simplicity is a gift.